Sunday, March 28, 2010

Decisions...

Yes, I know I haven't posted in forever. I don't know if anyone still has this blog in their Google Reader!

Right now, I'm struggling with a decision. Unfortunately, I gained quite a bit of weight after my wedding in 2008. My weight is something I have always struggled with. I managed to get down to a good weight for me, but I was still technically overweight by like 15-20 pounds! (The height/weight charts have never worked for me as an adult. Try as I may, I cannot seem to get to the weight I should be.) My biological clock is ticking really loudly, though, and I want a baby so badly. The hubby and I have been married for about 1.5 years, so it seems like a great time to try to conceive.

I'm struggling with the decision of waiting until this fall, so that I can lose some weight or just going ahead trying to conceive, regardless of my weight. The thought of not being pregnant until this fall or winter seems so awful and so far away!

Right now, my heart says to go ahead and try to conceive and hope that I can take off some weight after I have a baby. Any thoughts/suggestions?

8 comments:

Jennelle said...

You're still in my GR! :)

The height/weight charts just aren't meant for some people. I always show up as nearly overweight/just overweight, and I don't think I am at all. Have you talked to your doctor or OB about your weight and whether it might affect conception?

I know what you mean about waiting... Matt and I have been married for almost two years, and I would LOVE to have kids like now. Unfortunately, there's a lot of things going on right now that will push it back for a while...

Good luck with your decision, Aimee. I know there's never a "perfect" time to have kids, but it's so hard to choose the best time!

Jamie said...

Why not do both? Diet and exercise is good for everyone, ttc or not, pregs or not, etc. My advice is to start/keep eating healthy, exercise a bit and ttc if that's what you want! And even if you turn up pregs in your journey, that doesn't necessarily mean you should give up the diet and exercise part of your life, you know? If you do that will only make it that much harder to get yourself back into control after you have the baby.

Good luck :)

Angie said...

I think you should TTC regardless of your weight. If you breastfeed that may really help you lose weight. Having a precious bundle of joy is so much more important (in my mind). I think you'd be a great mommy, and being a mommy is the best thing that's ever happened to me!

Stephanie said...

I'm still here too and in your exact same shoes.

I was thinner, but still overweight at the time of the wedding and almost 1.5 years later, I'm much heavier now. I don't know, part of me thinks that I know overweight people have babies everyday, but I also know it will make for an easier pregnancy, labor and recovery if I am in better shape first. I will never be skinny, but I definitely could be healthier than I am right now.

Ok, so I didn't help you at all, but at least you know you're not alone!

Karen said...

Your still in my GR, too! I don't think you should wait unless your weight is putting your health at risk. I feel somewhat strongly that our society tends to let everyone think it's okay to keep waiting and waiting until everything is in line. At that point, things just might not be as easy. I think your better off starting now and and making sure to keep your health in check throughout the pregnancy. Good luck with whatever decision you make!

Pilar said...

I would say, go for it :-) You may want to watch what you're eating and work out normally until you find out you are PG, but if you're ready, I wouldn't wait to be at an "ideal" weight because who knows how long that will take, plus, like you said, a lot of the charts are simply unrealistic.

You can always continue to eat healthy and work out moderately while PG, so you don't gain as much, and if you BF I think it's faster to loose the weight (in my non-expert opinion).

Any way... Good luck with your decision!!!

Amber said...

I actually struggled with the same thing before getting pregnant. I really wanted to lose weight because I was at the highest weight I'd ever been and I knew it would be harder to keep it off after the baby. Well I decided that my desire to have a child was more important than my desire to lose weight so I go pregnant. I have packed on the lbs so far but it seems worth it. I don't feel huge and disgusting like I thought I would, I actually enjoy what I have put on so far [other than my huge boobs!! haha] and of course it has put me into new numbers I have never seen on the scale but I'm ok with it and I'm already motivated to lose the weight after the baby.

I think if you and your husband are ready to have a baby now, don't hold yourself back just because of the weight. Eat decent and work out during your pregnancy and it shouldn't be a big deal. I am so happy and excited at the moment to have a baby on the way that I don't even think about the fact that I wanted to lose weight before hand, it just doesn't matter anymore. Hope that helps and good luck!!

RealFitMama said...

I have to tell you that this post hit me hard! I was in the same situation as you a few years ago and wanted another baby so badly.

I waited almost 7 years after my first daughter was born to have a second because my first pregnancy was so hard on me.

I gained 65lbs and just felt awful. It took me a number of years to get my weight and health under control so I decided to wait for the second baby.

For me it was the right choice because pregnancy number 2 was so much easier than pregnancy number 1.

in the end you have to do what is right for you, your situation and your body. Good luck to you and in the end, whatever you choose, you'll have a beautiful little baby that makes it ALL worth it!